What are “holidays” and why are they so stressful? A holiday is any special occasion, all year round, which involves extra preparations; extra time, money and energy; and families. Examples include birthdays, weddings, religious holidays, and secular holidays. Stress results when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others. Sometimes it’s the family getting together that contributes to the stress, and sometimes it’s the fact that you’re not getting together, or can’t, whatever the reason may be.
If you can identify with this definition, keep reading for some tips that will help to reduce holiday stress in four major areas of your life:
Organizing Your Stuff
- Sort and purge decorations as you unpack them. If you pull it out and think, “Why do I still have this?” get rid of it now! Toss it, donate it, or give it to someone who will appreciate it.
- Put decorations away in an organized manner & purge some more. If you didn’t use it this year, are you going to next year?
- Store like items together (lights with lights, ornaments with ornaments), or according to how you like to use them (i.e. by room). Label containers (avoid “MISC”, which is not helpful), and protect keepsakes.
- You don’t have to use all your decorations every year. It’s OK to decorate less! I don’t care how many decorations you own as long as you have sufficient storage space and a method of remembering and accessing what you have.
- Simplify gift wrapping. Consider using one giant roll of gift wrap instead of 10 smaller ones. Or pick one signature paper (a solid color, or a small pattern) and three different colors of ribbon that will work for any occasion all year long. Set up a wrapping station in a spare room with paper, tape, scissors, and trim handy.
Organizing Your Time
- Think about each activity you are planning. Do you enjoy doing it? Want to do it? Need to do it? Or, is it Holiday Activity Clutter?
- Focus on activities that will fill your spirit and create memories. You don’t have to go to every party you are invited to. Kids will enjoy staying home and making cookies with you as much as going out and spending a lot of money.
- Plan projects and schedule related tasks. If a project like sending holiday cards seems overwhelming, break it down into smaller steps and do them over several days: list recipients, obtain addresses, choose cards, address cards, write greetings, stamp and mail.
- Don’t try to remember everything – make a list or write it down on your calendar!
Organizing Your Family
- Communication is the key. Set expectations about activities & gifts. Are you drawing names? Gifts for kids only? Stocking stuffers? No gifts this year?
- Make wish lists and share them with each other. It’s not rude if you follow my Wish List Etiquette guidelines. Consider giving clutter-free gifts such as experiences or consumables.
- Ask each person to pick their one most cherished activity. That will give you an agenda and make everyone feel special without trying to do too much.
- Keep in mind that families change for many reasons, including marriage, divorce, relocation, and death. Traditions can – in fact, must – change too. Be open to creating new ones.
Organizing Your Self
- Don’t drive yourself crazy doing the same thing each year, expecting different results! (P.S. Changes of attitude count as much as changes in behavior.)
- Don’t spend more than your energy and financial budgets allow. Exceeding your energy budget will make you tired and cranky. Exceeding your financial budget will make you resentful and broke.
- Go easy on yourself. Give yourself permission to do less. Get enough sleep, eat right (for the most part), and even if you get out of your fitness routine, take time to go for a walk. (She tells herself.) Enjoy the moment, and be grateful. Gratitude is a huge happiness booster and stress reliever!
- Ask for help if you need it (a friend, a professional organizer). Hire someone to clean your house before or after a party. Why do all the cooking yourself? Make it a potluck!
Here’s to stress-free holidays, all year long!
Related flow chart: The Holiday Activity Clutter Flow Chart, available here.
Copyright 2011 by Hazel Thornton, Organized For Life.
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